"most of the time the things you need will conflict - you will want love and you will also yearn for independence; you will want stability and you will dream of adventure; you will want one person and you will also want the world. do not resist this, do not apologize for it, do not try to fix it. accept your own complexity, your own conflictions and uncertainties. accept that you are a being, a live, wild thing that keeps on changing. accept that you are many things, and love yourself for it. fight for your many needs. that is not selfish, it is caring."